Several years ago at a Strategic Coach event I heard Dan Sullivan encourage our group to "lead with our strengths." In thinking about this over time I have seen men and women, professional golfers, and loving and caring parents work diligently on their weaknesses while encouraging their children to do the same.
God has made us all unique with different gifts and callings on our lives, and I want to encourage you to work on the things you are good at doing and spend much less time on things you are weak in. As we, and our children, develop the callings and skills God has uniquely given us we build confidence and awareness that, though we are unique, He can use us all in His service and no two of us have to look alike.
Spend some time studying your children (old and young!) and encourage them in the things they are already strong and gifted. When a report card comes home with four A's and a C on which do we focus. What do they love that can be built upon as a skill or talent? How can you encourage your family to move towards what they are interested and good at?
Investing a few minutes and a couple of conversations can pay big dividends as young adults grow into adulthood.